And here we go, onto another obstacle of my dating saga. I went on a date over the weekend, to find out this person is in fact, in an open relationship. So many questions started going through my mind. Okay, what does this mean for me? Are both parties aware this relationship is in fact, “open”? Where do you take an “open” relationship?
After having a decent time, it was time to go home where I found my mind asking me all these questions. My answer? It’s definitely not the thing for me.
I’ve been reading different people’s accounts over the past 24 hours and get it… an open relationship does work for some, but definitely not everybody (including myself). Luckily my date was on the same page as well, but still, the thought of an open relationship is still very intriguing to me. Mostly how people actually make it work. I came across a very interesting article written for the “Huffington Post” about the rules involved in people who try an open relationship. As a sociology minor, this subject is extremely interesting to me. To think about what goes on in the minds of couples who are tossing around the idea of trying this out and making it work.
The author of the article, Michael Radkowsky (Washington DC psychologist who provides individual and couples therapy to both gay and straight clients) discusses some very interesting points:
Are there rules we can follow to open up our relationship and still keep it healthy?
Don’t ask, don’t tell.
Agreements to limit what each of you does with others seperately.
Tough subject to discuss, but I think these thoughts cross a lot of individual/couples’ minds so here’s the full run-down. As for me, I get too emotionally invested, no matter the person for an open relationship to work out. It’s always so crazy to find yourself in certain situations that make you question if this person/situation is good and/or right for you. That answer was given to me on a silver platter over the weekend.
