We are all guilty of this. A friend has an issue in their relationship and we give them the best advice we can give…knowing we would never do it ourselves. Glamour magazine posted 6 good ones you can check on their site but we attacked the two most common statements in detail…
Go Out With Them Because They’re “Nice”
Oh man this is one that is way too true. You tell them to give someone a shot because they are “nice”. From our perspective, it makes sense. Who wouldn’t want to date someone who is nice, caring, compassionate, and will generally never make waves because their personality keeps them from doing so?
Nice does not mean compatible.
We always forget that just because someone is “nice” doesn’t mean they’ll be an instant match with your pal. We always forget how complex relationships are when we are dealing with others, but when we examine ourselves we start to realize how deep it really gets. So save Mr. Nice Guy for your Ms. Nice Girl and take your friends personality into consideration when choosing them a new boo.
“Don’t Worry About It”
Your friend running into his ex with his new lover may not seem like a big deal to you…and in actuality it isn’t…for you.
For your friend, especially early in the relationship, it might as well be zero hour in the crisis zone.
Of course others problems are easy to analyze when it has zero impact or effect in your life. You’re the outsider, and have nothing to lose or gain from how it plays out, but put the shoe on the other foot and the game changes.
Suddenly you’re the one wondering who made who feel awkward, if you blew your chance with your new fling, if your ex is thinking about you…you know how it goes. You’re probably having an anxiety attack right now aren’t you?!
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